So What is Red Tuesday?

Red Tuesday is the Tuesday before Valentine’s Day, a day when there appears to be an increase in the number of relationships breaking up or breaking down. Many individuals approach Valentine’s Day with trepidation and upset.

So, what can you do if this resonates with you?

Here are 5 tips to help you get through the day!

1. Allow Yourself to Feel
It’s perfectly normal to experience a range of emotions—sadness, confusion, even anger. Acknowledge what you’re feeling, knowing that it’s okay to feel this way. Consider taking off your “Rose-Tinted Glasses” and reflect on aspects of the
relationship that may not have been so great. Consider making a list and doing something small that you enjoy, like watching a show on Netflix or buying a new cushion in your favourite colour.

2. Resist Constantly Checking Social Media
Constantly checking social media can exacerbate feelings of hurt and upset. Instead, plan activities to keep yourself busy and set boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. Consider asking a friend to help you by deleting tempting social media connections. Engaging in endless questioning or social media searches will only prolong the pain. Plan to be busy and keep your phone out of reach!

3. Self-Care
Prioritise self-care. Engage in activities that uplift your mood and make you feel better. Whether it’s listening to empowering music, pampering yourself with a manicure, exercising, or spending time in nature, do what brings you calmness and happiness. Seeking support from a coach can also empower you to navigate this challenging time.

4. Build a Support System
Ensure you have a supportive circle of friends and family around you. Surround yourself with individuals who offer calm and constructive support and advice. Find someone you can confide in without fear of judgement or encouragement to make hasty decisions. You may also need to seek legal or financial advice during this time.

Consider enlisting the help of a coach to identify your needs and navigate through the difficulties you’re facing.

5. Remember, It’s Just One Day

Remind yourself that this day does not define you or your future. Embrace your self-worth and practise positive affirmations. Remember that these feelings are temporary and will pass. Take proactive steps to “Take Back Control” by creating a bucket list of things you want to achieve and start working towards them.

Remember what hurts you cannot heal you!
You’ve Got This!

Take back control and work towards building a brighter future for yourself.

By Carrie Christer – Coach – supporting families to navigate divorce and breakup.


A huge thank you to Carrie Christer Coaching for this blog.