Caring for your Mental Health at Christmas and throughout the Festive Season
The festive season is often portrayed as a time of joy, celebration, and togetherness. But for many, it can also bring stress, loneliness, or overwhelm. As mental health professionals we understand the challenges the festive season can present.
Here are some practical tips to help you protect your mental health and truly make the season your own.
Set Realistic Expectations
Remember, nobody is perfect – even though they may try to appear that way. And we don’t have to be perfect. Traditions may evolve, and that’s okay. Instead of striving for perfection, focus on what truly matters to you. This might mean scaling back on elaborate plans or saying no to events that don’t align with your energy levels or priorities. You won’t be the only one that doesn’t want to go to all the festive events.
Create a Budget – and Stick to It
The pressure to spend during the festive season can lead to financial stress. Decide on a realistic budget for gifts, meals, and outings, and stick to it. Consider thoughtful, low-cost alternatives like homemade gifts, or suggest a Secret Santa exchange to reduce costs.
Prioritise Self-Care
Amid the chaos of the festive season, don’t forget to take care of yourself. Schedule moments to recharge – whether it’s by going for a quiet walk, practising mindfulness, or indulging in a hobby. These small acts can keep stress levels in check and help you stay grounded.
Stay Connected
If you’re feeling lonely, reach out. Whether it’s a call, a text, or a coffee date, connecting with others can provide comfort – both for you and the other person.
There are also many community events or volunteering opportunities where you can meet new people and give back.
Acknowledge your Feelings
It’s okay if you’re not feeling merry. The festive season can stir up memories of loss, family tensions, or other difficulties. Allow yourself to feel these emotions without judgement, and consider speaking to a friend, family member, or therapist for support.
Plan for Difficult Situations
If family gatherings or social events are proving challenging, plan ahead. Set boundaries, such as limiting the time you spend at certain events, and have an exit strategy if things become overwhelming. Remember, it’s okay to prioritise your well-being.
Limit Social Media
Comparing your holiday experience to others’ curated social media posts can lead to feelings of inadequacy or FOMO (fear of missing out). Take a break from scrolling, and remember that what you see online isn’t the full story – it’s what people want you to see. They may well be feeling just the same as you.
Seek Professional Help if Needed
If you’re struggling, please consider getting professional support. Organisations like Mind, Samaritans, and others provide resources and helplines to support mental health year-round. Our team of experts may well have spaces too.
Some local support resources in the UK are:
- Mind: Call 0300 123 3393 or visit mind.org.uk.
- Samaritans: Call 116 123 (free, 24/7) or visit https://www.samaritans.org/
- Shout: Text 85258 for free mental health support via SMS. https://giveusashout.org/
